Add color to your blues ..
Lately, i have been in a gloomy mood.. well blame it to my capricorn birth sign or my mood swings .. or even lack of chocolate in my blood.. but i wasnt myself.. many times i'd cry .. to seraaph's bad luck she'd call at the same time..she'd end up with a drenched shoulder.. few times i sat in my corner.. searched deeply for the one i know.. for the girl i remember i carried her soul.. many times i was generous with my unlimited fake smiles trying to send as much endorphins to my pathetic mind..
I am not the right person to advice you what to do at such situations.. but when it seems that your life is dark.. not even blue.. it lacks color .. and for no good reason tears gather in your eyes.. try one of the following..
- Remember that God is always there for us..
- Ma a9abaka lam yakon liyo56i2oka wama a56a2ka lam yakon liyo9eboka.. Its our destiny.. we have to accept it and make the best out of it.. inshallah
things will be better.. w keleh ib ajrah.. just have patience.. - Listen to sorat yousef or la ta7zan !
- Blueprint ! Remember it ?
- Find a good reliable comfy shoulder to cry on.. if not available.. find a good pillow to hug.. they always do wonderssss !
- The person with the shoulder should preferably be an honest friend.. who doesn't compliment you for stupid reasons.. who loves you for yourself.. believe me .. they'd tell you to get a life.. or go to hell.. they'd tell you they love you .. or u are simply a pathetic creature.. (though i'd consider the latter as a compliment ) but you got my point... in other words "honesty and transparency"
- Find a corner.. and talk to yourself.. get into the habit of talking to yourself.. i miss me.. i'll tell you guys about my corner one day.. bs i really wanted to find myself.. will gossip about it one day.. so bottom line here.. find the true YOU..
- Take it out.. DO NOT act like a sponge.. shock absorbers don't live long.. they end up with all kind of sickness.. fi we7deh whenever she gets depressed she ends up being sick.. *cough cough e777mm * el wa7id abda ma 3alaih 9e7ateh.. right? (okay am telling myself this too) but seriously.. find a way to take it out .. i used to be the kind of a person who'd really be so aggressive when pissed off... i could be either depressed, pissed off.. mad.. really mad.. usually i'd cry.. that's like almost always .. i'd snap .. worst scenarios .. i'd really get mad.. i'd start shaking.. my legs shaking .. my hands would hurt.. and i'd simply feel better after throwing something to the wall.. and breaking it.. ! (okay 3oothbilla men il shai6an) it has been a while since i last did all that.. el7emdelelah.. but that would be the worst scenarios. Bottom line.. take it out..
- Eat (not advisable but helpful)
- Cry (use a concealer and an eye drop to eliminate the puffy red eyes look
or blame it to the lenses, eyeliner.. a fly fell in your eyes :p ) - Exercise: kickboxing if mad, taebo is lovely, Yoga if
depressed, swimming if you wanna feel fresh.. - Although i mentioned the eating part earlier.. but as much as i love food i feel i should give it the importance it deserves.. lol .. i am an emotional eater.. okay okay fine .. there u go i confessed.. i crave on CHOCOLATEs a lot when am in one of my "moods" *rolls her eyes* .. okay this is an advice which i dont do frankly.. try to eat something healthy.. noodles could be categorized as healthy seraaph :p .. MD.. chocolate icecream isnt THAT healthy :p But if you ever felt like eating.. try drinking water instead.. or try chewing a gum.. carrots and cucumbers are handy too.. ! Eat Healthy
- Sit with your family .. take your fone and call those who are in your "contact" list who you havén't called for months and ages.. be around people.. it helps.. SOCIALIZE !
- If you were able to focus.. read or finish your piled up work.. but try to focus.. as much as you could.. FOCUS Bogus :p
- Color your life.. have a long a shower.. pamper yourself.. do something crazy.. dont cut your hair too short though ;)
- Talk to someone who is in a worse situation than u ..
- Hang on there.. just for one day..
- LOVE YOURSELF..
11 comments:
serrrrrrrrrrrrrraph....I WON :D:D:D:D
i needed this. u know, i cant eat carrots or cucumbers when im in my 'emotional eating' mood. i NEED junk food. today was just...one of those crappily fcuked days. i hope i survive.
miss u loads. i dont even know when/when not to call u. hope ure well.
Off many things in common….dear u have another miserable lady who is blessed with a Capricorn sign….another reason to hate my mom 4 giving birth to me in that mn7ooooos month …..lol …now twin will know why we get depressed 10 times a month !!!
“I am an emotional eater” wooow another thing in common :)
“dont cut your hair too short though” I dye it …”something worse”……
any way Dot...love ur blog...
don't worry :p ur shoulder is a good medicine for this girl who gets sick whenever she's depressed. lol, u forgot to mention "laugh uncontrollably for no good reason" as one of ur take it out points.
i love ur blog n love u more ;)
p.s
MD u idiot we'll see next time!! :P
ana wedii asa2al so2al .. to SERAPH and MD .. entoooooooo ba6ala ma3ndkom sh'3l "who WON: LOL
Dear...
Funny how our brain is the main focus of everything. Try it once, lay back, think of happy experiences, ones that are to come, and see your face lighten up; but keep in mind that the heart will disobey because it feels more comfy being SAD as it takes a bit of muscles to change that into a SMILE and to move out of the cave. Just make it a habit to think positively even in bad situations.
You might have lost urself, but by hiding and being sad, you simply do nothing but add MISERY to your life which complicated the issue. Just leave it for a while, enjoy life, and an answer would come to you... Trust God for He has all.
Nice piece of advice, but when one is in the situation, then its hard to look out of the box. But try, for its worth it dear ... <---- personal experience
MD: sms me and if am around i'll give you a call .. i miss you too .. just hang on there girl.. things will get better .. 2 weeks are over from that month and inshallah things will chill ;)
ARABLADY: lol omg we are crazy arent we... and please have mercy on your hair .. emotional eater.? what do you crave on.. lol
nawar leblog ;)
Seraaph.. lately this shoulder isnt there for that girl.. and i feel bad about it..
laugh uncontrollably.. how did i forget this.. giggle .. but it was cute.. ;)
SilentSpirit: thats why i have those loving souls around me.. thinking about all those sweet memories we had / will have / might have really does help.. but as you said.. when u are in the situation.. your first reaction could be totally different. Although i listed all those points.. but believe me.. in many of these points you'd find a clown face .. its right to be "strong" and stand up in front of everything that hurts.. but sometimes its even healthy to just let it go... as for isolating myself.. sweetheart.. being the person i am i used to sit a lot in my "corner" .. not necessary depressed though most of the times i'd cry.. but to me.. my tears wash away the bad thoughts that i'd be having.. its just that many times you seek this moment of silence and closeness to yourself.. to God...
i love you all .. thanks for being there for me.. for caring when am not well.. for making me smile when i have a frown.. for sharing the most crazy.. loving.. and exciting experiences am sure i'd always remember..
You know.. There was a story of this man named Ahamd. He town was a miserable place to live in: social inequality, life centered around lust, pple doing stupid stuff.. Ahamd believed that it was his duty to change the world. He spent tons of years trying to help his town understand the value of being "more humans", but their ignorance drove them to rejecting him and his values.
He was triggered by the death of two of his dear family members to leave and preach his values in a different town--maybe if he established himself well there, his town would be impressed and follow him... but unfortunately, ignorants were everywhere and so this time the new town tortured him, expelling him, forcing him to leave with bleeding feet.
He sat in his corner.. and smiled... and said:
اللهم اليك اشكو ضعف قوتي , و قلة حيلتي , و هواني على الناس , يا ارحم الراحمين , أنت رب المستضعفين , و أنت ربي , الى من تكلني ؟ الى بعيد يتجهمني ؟أم الى عدو ملكته امري؟ ان لم يكن بك علي غضب فلا ابالي , و لكن عافيتك هى اوسع لي, اعوذ بنور وجهك الذي اشرقت لة الظلمات , وصلح عليه امر الدنيا و الاخرة من ان تنزل بي غضبك , او يحل علي سخطك, لك العتبى حتى ترضى , و لا حول ولا قوة الا بك
and btw, i no longer believe in crying.. crying doesn't change one's situation .. action is what does!
(unless we initiate a social movement and call it the crying "social" revolution... a crying march to raise awareness about and against violence against butterflies :p
crying 3an crying yafrig 3ad !
loved the way you wrote the prophet's story.. thats one of the prayers i really love.. : )
mashy yifreq.. all tears are salty.. loool.. if u know of any store that sells sweet tears, with whipcream, then tell me .. lol
then you wouldnt stop crying :p
shai farg ya3ni shai farg :p
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